Your phone rings.
You answer.
Someone needs help.
You help.
A child needs attention.
A client needs support.
A partner needs something.
And somehow…
You always find a way to show up.
But when it comes to yourself?
You keep postponing.
The walk.
The rest.
The conversation you need to have.
The thing your body has been asking for.
Because there is always someone else who feels more urgent.
And little by little, you disappear from your own life.
What’s happening
You have become exceptionally skilled at responding.
To people.
To responsibilities.
To expectations.
To demands.
The problem is that responsiveness has become automatic.
So automatic that you often notice everyone else’s needs before you notice your own.
And because you’re capable…
People continue coming to you.
Which creates a cycle where:
You become increasingly available to everyone else.
And increasingly unavailable to yourself.
Why it happens (nervous system / somatic)
For many high-functioning women, self-abandonment doesn’t look dramatic.
It looks responsible.
Productive.
Helpful.
Through the Somatic Intelligence Circuit™ (SIC):
• Reception becomes focused on external needs and requests
• Interpretation prioritizes others before self
• Response becomes immediate caregiving, helping, or fixing
• Integration reinforces the identity: “My needs come last”
Over time, your body learns that everyone else gets your attention first.
And eventually…
Your own signals become harder to hear.
How it shows up in relationships
This pattern often looks like:
• feeling depleted even when life is going well
• struggling to identify what you actually want
• feeling resentful after giving too much
• wanting more intimacy but having no energy left for it
• feeling disconnected from yourself and your partner
And internally?
You feel invisible.
Not because others don’t care.
Because you’ve become the last person on your own list.
The Somatic Path Back to Connection
The path back isn’t selfish.
It’s necessary.
Because intimacy with others depends on intimacy with yourself.
You cannot continuously abandon yourself and expect to feel deeply connected.
The body needs experiences where your needs matter too.
Where your desires matter.
Where your emotions matter.
Where your attention returns home.
Connection begins there.
Not with another person.
With you.
Working with the Body Through Touch
Through somatic bodywork — such as somatic massage and de-armoring — we:
• help reconnect you with sensations and needs you’ve been overlooking
• release tension created by chronic caregiving and over-responsibility
• restore the body’s capacity to receive care and support
• create space for nourishment, restoration, and presence
Through somatic coaching for relationships and intimacy, we:
• identify patterns of self-abandonment and over-giving
• strengthen boundaries that protect your energy and well-being
• reconnect you with your authentic desires and needs
• cultivate healthier relationships built on reciprocity and balance
Real Story
A client once told me:
“I take care of everyone.”
I asked her:
“Who takes care of you?”
She immediately answered:
“I’m fine.”
Then she started laughing.
Then crying.
Because the truth was:
No one was.
Not because people didn’t love her.
Because she never allowed herself to become a priority.
She had become so accustomed to responding to everyone else’s needs that she couldn’t remember the last time she checked in with her own.
That realization was painful.
And liberating.
Because for the first time in years, she began asking a different question:
“What do I need?”
And that question changed everything.
Ready to Receive Support and Guidance?
Begin with the intake process.
Read the full page and choose the intake form that best matches your needs. Inside the form, you will be able to book a discovery call where we will speak directly about your intentions, what’s in the way, and how Lucia Gabriela can support you. CLICK HERE
Prefer to Begin Privately and at Your Own Pace?
The Orgasmic Alchemy Method is a self-paced somatic coaching journey designed to help you:
• reconnect with your authentic needs, desires, and emotions
• identify patterns of self-abandonment and over-giving
• cultivate healthier boundaries and self-awareness
• create deeper connection with yourself and the people you love
